The End of Gender? )#$*)(@#$

24 Jun

Wow, what a thing to wake up to on a Friday morning.  THE END OF GENDER!

Breaking news! #)$(#@@#$)*(%)(!@  REALLY!?

Now I’m pissed.  SUPER pissed.  “Gender is becoming extinct.”  No kidding!  And normally I hate hate hate NPR and refuse to look at/listen to it(sorry, artsy friends), but they put up this article yesterday, and I am losing my mind.

Okay, check out these bullets from the article:

“Look closely and you may see signposts.

• Kathy Witterick and her husband, David Stocker, are raising their 4-month-old child, Storm, without revealing the child’s gender. According to the birth announcement from the Toronto couple: “We’ve decided not to share Storm’s sex for now — a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a stand up to what the world could become in Storm’s lifetime (a more progressive place?)”
• Andrej Pejic, an androgynous Australian model, worked both the male and female runways at the Paris fashion shows earlier this year.
• A recent J. Crew catalog drew national attention when it featured a young boy with his toenails painted pink.” –this dumb article

1)  OMG reveal the child’s sex.  “More progressive place”?  Really?  Let’s just undefine everything that we’ve ever defined.  PLEASE!  So that no one knows left from right, and no one knows up from down.  SERIOUSLY.

2)  Okay, models are different, and I do not care.  I don’t think models look like real people anyway.

3)  Um, kids are special.  Sometimes, they imitate to learn.  If they end up being gay and wanting to paint their toenails, giddy up.  If  they end up straight wanting to paint their toenails, giddy up.

But I am scared outta my mind that the children of the future are going to grow up without gender roles.  It’s farkin’ stupid.  We bitch about how people don’t know how to act. Well that’s because we’re so afraid to tell them how to act, or to show them, because God forbid we offend anyone.

Please don’t get me wrong.  I love gay folks, I love straight folks, I have no problem with people being confused about gender.  I have no problem with people who do anything.  To each their own.  But as a society?  DAMNIT I do have a problem with the fact that people are being offended by something that is relatively natural!

Gender roles exist because people need guidelines.  You take guidelines away, and people freak out.  No one knows how to act.  And then it’s just freakin’ mayhem.

I’m proud to be a damn woman.  And I’m proud to act like one.  But I don’t fit all the roles.  I can’t cook for the life of me–oh wait, are you offended by that?  Are you offended that I relate cooking to a woman’s gender role?  Well guess what, my boyfriend can cook…and shoot the deer that he throws on the skillet or the grill or blah blah blah.  But he can’t sew a button on his khakis.

And I think pride goes back to something else.  There CAN be distinctions!  I’m proud to be a woman.  I proud to have a little German and Czech in me.  Mike’s proud to be a man.  And to have some Indian (I’m not sayin’ Native American) in him.  I know plenty of Puerto Ricans who are proud to be Puerto Rican.  And I know plenty of other people from all areas of the world, or from certain descents, that are proud of that!  But we’re not supposed to identify them by it.

Why not?  They’re proud of it.  WTF)(#*)$(*@#)$(*

I’m too mad to finish this.  Have a good weekend, you androgynous, neutral-descended, ….crap I’m more offended by that than I am definition.



Posted by on June 24, 2011 in Domesticity


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9 responses to “The End of Gender? )#$*)(@#$

  1. Tim

    June 24, 2011 at 8:22 am

    You mean to tell me I’m no longer a man??? Damn before I get too use to that Idea maybe I should F myself 🙂 That’s some crazy Shit! Personally, I think if I say something or do something that offends someone…it’s their fought! Don’t listen to me or do watch me! I think I see a blog idea coming on here….It pisses me off that we worry about offending people…I say Offend away…Bitches!

  2. Erin Seabolt Bond

    June 24, 2011 at 9:01 am

    You crack me up! 🙂 I don’t think you have anything to worry about. We’re not getting rid of gender any more than we’re getting rid of race or eye color or socioeconomic status or sexual orientation or any of the other hundred thousand labels we have. The only reason this is in the news is because it’s sensational. (And you can’t blame NPR–they aren’t the ones keeping the baby’s gender secret! This story was all over the other news outlets a week or so ago, so blame them.)

    I’m all for questioning or challenging pre-existing gender roles, but I’m all for celebrating differences too, rather than pretending they don’t exist.

    For example, I’m proud to be from West Virginia. But I would like for people to stop thinking that means I married my cousin and can’t speak proper English. I’m proud of the distinction of where I’m from (I don’t want to hide it), but I want people to become more reasonable about what that distinction means.

    Maybe we could relax a little on what it “means” to be men and women without pretending there are no differences whatsoever.

  3. Jerry Pope

    June 24, 2011 at 11:39 am

    I always thought it was weird that someone could be proud of something they had no control over. “Proud to be an American,” what does that even mean? I’m proud of what I have accomplished, not what was given to me or what I was born into. I spent the first summer session studying gender roles. The first thing that jumps out at me is in the name: roles. Makes me think of a play. It all depends on the director and audience too. In modern India there are still arranged marriages. The language for that practice is present here in America: the father “giving away” his daughter. I don’t know what’s right, or if any of it is. Unless we want to be stuck in the dark ages forever, however gas-powered they might be, then we need to be willing to grow. How to do that? In what direction should we grow? Who knows. Let’s experiment a little. What if most of society’s ills can be traced to our roles? Maybe we can change, stop stagnating so much and adjust to who we are–instead of who we want to or think we should be. I’m suddenly thinking of Lennon singing “Imagine.”


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