I know. Half of you are up in arms with my title already. Who am I decide this, right? Well it’s my blog, so I’M DECIDING TODAY!
You all know how big I am on gender roles. I think it’s way more okay for women to cry on a regular basis than it is for men. We are, after all, the emotional sex. (YEAH, I said it.) But I’m not disagreeing that women can be stronger than hell. I mean, physically (lifting cars off of children) and emotionally (holding a family together in hard times, taking the brunt of the work, rarely getting thanked for it), and often mentally (8 soccer practices to remember and a career to balance with a home life and raising babies and all of that). Women have a lot going on!
And so do men, I’m sure. But men (according to me on my perch over here) have less of a right to be emotional. And I think they just are less emotional in general. I mean, seriously–guys don’t watch The Notebook and think, “Gosh, if I could only have a girl like Allie.” Nope. They’re thinking, “Damn, I wanna bang a chick walking up the stairs like Noah did.”
I think we can all agree that our brains/genetic make-up/hearts are different.
I know it makes me a bitch, but when men get over-emotional for no reason, I kind of secretly (not so secretly
anymore) deduct man points from them. It’s like, “You’re a man, dude. Hold it together.” I like Marlboro Men, Old Spice Men, Men like Achilles in Troy.
But there are instances when men should be allowed to express complete vulnerability, emotion, sadness, whatever. They’re allowed to break down. So when is this acceptable?
- When they’re alone. Always.
- When they’re at a funeral. Death is always worth crying for.
- When they propose (this is one of the most pivotal points in a man’s life. He’s bound to shed a tear or be nervous).
- When they get married.
- When their children are born.
- When their wives or children are suffering.
- When they feel inadequate.
- When they’re in immense pain.