Get your darn minds out of the gutter. This has nothing to do with getting yours and then giving him his, too.
What I’m saying is this: Ladies–you want your womanhood and your capabilities and all of your potential to be recognized. You are proud to be women and want to be treated like equals. You wanted to be respected, to be treated like a woman, and to catch no flack for doing both.
And oddly enough, and contrary to prior postings, I don’t see a problem with this. But we (women) complain that there are no good men left. There is no more chivalry and manners and men treating women like ladies.
Reasons? I think I have two.
- Read the bold description up top and tell me that doesn’t sound demanding as hell. It’s intimidating! Powerful women are great and all, but when you’re so set on gaining respect and making your own way, men are afraid they’re going to offend you if they try to treat you like a woman.
- Second reason is that women are failing miserable to treat men like men. I was the first to ask where all the real men have gone.
And I think I’ve solved it.
Women, you want respect, which you deserve. You also want to be treated like a lady. So LET men treat you like a lady for one thing. Even though you can change your own oil and make it to your meeting with a Supreme Court Justice just fine by yourself, let a guy take on some of the responsibilities for you. They LIKE taking care of you.
With that said, ladies, if you want to be respected and treated like ladies, you have to do the same for men. Treat a man like a man and respect him. Not only that–recognize that he is a man.
I know this sounds sexist. But really, on both ends, we need to recognize what the other wants us to see in them.
Although Mike (boyfriend) and I are best friends, we also know not to just treat each other like pals. He surprises me with girly things like spa products, and he opens car doors and other chivalrous things, but he has no doubt that I am capable of doing these things myself.
It works in reverse, too. I see Mike as my equal, but I also recognize that Mike’s a man and enjoys doing man things, and truth be told, I don’t mind having him get the heavier bags when we go shopping, or running out to get the car in the rain so my hair doesn’t get messed up.
I’m digging myself into a hole. I like gender roles, and I know some of you defy them in any way you can. But when it comes down to it, you DO have a gender and I think it’s nice when it’s recognized.