But only because I’m a former resident.
I think you all know how I felt about my time in Wilmington, North Carolina. I enjoyed certain parts of it, but when it came down to brass tracks, I always wanted to go home to the north coast, to Ohio.
I was continuously yelled at and reprimanded for my views, for the men that I dated, for the way I asked about the gender of an unborn child. My views on sunscreen and the word gypped pissed people off. Wilmington, North Carolina was a little too willy-nilly for me…and it’s apparently one of the more liberal towns. Yet everything I said was judged and taken to be offensive, when it reality I think more tolerance could have been practiced.
I’m told that I’d love the western part of the state…which is where I think the majority of the 60% that turned down gay marriage live. Perhaps I would like some parts of western NC, but I belong in the North.
Sure, I’ll lose some followers when I say this, but I think it’s worth being said. While I am conservative in many aspects of my life (government, money, etc.), I am much more liberal in the social aspect of things. And while I may not be way off to the left socially, I do believe that we need to loosen up.
So when Amendment One passed in North Carolina yesterday, I can honestly say I felt some sadness. I knew plenty of gay and lesbian couples when I lived there. And while I refuse to get preachy and talk about rights, I will say that I have no problem with the civil union of gay and lesbian couples. Now, I will also say this–I was raised a Catholic…and I am a conservative…and I AM from Ohio. It would be dishonest of me to not say that the thought of church weddings in this respect does make me a little antsy. But gay marriage in general does not.
My friend Daniel married his partner of 15 years on May 8th, 2012 in Washington, DC. It wasn’t a destination wedding for fun–it was a destination wedding born out of necessity. And that kinda sucks.
I’m very happy for Daniel and Ben, and for any couple that can unite in love legally. Someday there will be tolerance. I believe that whole-heartedly.