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Kokomo

When I was younger and throwing a hissy fit, there were two things that calmed me down.

The first was a VHS tape of Michael Jackson’s Concert at Budapest that my parents recorded from VH1.  They popped it in, I shut the hell up.

The second was also a VHS tape of the Beach Boys video “Kokomo”, also recorded from either VH1 or MTV.

For whatever reason this morning, I watched this video, and I was taken back.  By the music, but the old cocktail footage, by UNCLE JESSE IN A PINK TANK TOP PLAYING DRUMS.

First of all–he has always been hot.  I love him–still–always.  I think John Stamos in this video was the cause of my sexual awakening.  Well, that might be a little exaggerated.  It was the moment that I realized I really liked boys–even greasy ones with pink tank tops.  Gimme a break, it was the ’80s.

Anyway, here’s the video.  Happy nostalgia!

 
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Posted by on June 26, 2012 in When I Was Young

 

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Why It’s Okay for Men to Stare at Women

YES.  If you’ll remember my catcalling post, you can probably assume that I’m on board with this article.

“Why men can’t–and shouldn’t–stop staring at women”

Why are men looked down upon for looking at women?  Why do they feel ashamed if they’re caught?  I know that if I catch a man looking at me, I’m not offended–I’m rather flattered.  Hell, I’m flattered when I catch Mike looking at me.

So why is there such a stigma?  Even if the guys are older (as in the case of this article), just because they’re looking at a woman doesn’t mean that they’re going to sexually assault her.  They’re just giving recognition to a woman that they find attractive.  Big deal?  Absolutely–in the very best way.

Part of the reason men are questioning whether or not they’re pervs for looking at women?  I agree with “Y”:  “The problem for us as men is that we’re in the wrong culture, and we’re men at the wrong time. We’re not a culture that empowers men with casual sensuality.”

And quite possibly my favorite paragraph:  “I’m about to leave when Z tosses me a last thought. ‘Some women assume the male gaze is sinful and hurtful and evil, that men can never look at women in a different way. But that’s not what the gaze is about. Because a sophisticated man would not hesitate to gaze, and then he might be filled with regret and loss, and therefore gain self-knowledge.'”

Look on, men.  Look on.

 
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Posted by on March 27, 2012 in Daily Happenings

 

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